However, if you’re just looking to go out and have fun and hook up with new guys, then waiting a long time to have sex probably doesn’t make a lot of sense.You can’t be (safely, responsibly) slutty if you’re making every attractive guy you meet wait six months before the two of you get down to business.So you would imagine that having sex would have been completely fulfilling -- the crowning achievement in the worship of my "god." And yet, there was often a lack of fulfillment afterwards. Why is it that sex, if it's so important to me, leaves me with an empty feeling? I then concluded: "I just need more [sex], that's all." (We often think this way about stuff we hope will fulfill us, then doesn't.For example, we get the car we've always wanted, but then it's just "okay" after awhile. There wouldn't be any "emptiness." I've found that girls often don't fully understand what's going on when it comes to sex.to ask both your partner and yourself before you get in bed.Some are obvious—almost everybody knows to ask about STIs and birth control, and it makes sense to have a conversation about where the relationship is going. For example, how do you ask a guy you've just met whether he's an arrogant jerk who's selfish in bed? But that doesn't mean you can't figure it out with a few less direct questions.
It seems to me that you’re feeling remorse or guilt about jumping into bed with this guy on date one.
Whether you've been dating someone for a while or it's your first online date, part of what makes dating so exciting is the possibility, if ever so slight, that you might end up in bed together. There is simply no point in sleeping with someone if you aren't intensely physically attracted to them.
However, just because you can doesn't necessarily mean you should. Your first sexual experience together should be nothing short of electric, and physical attraction plays a huge role in that. Before stripping down, take a minute to consider your motives. Being physically attracted to your date is one thing, but you also need to make sure that your emotions are ready for all that sex brings..yep, it's more than just an orgasm.
We ended up back at my house for a glass of wine, and we couldn’t keep our hands off each other, so we slept together. I really like this guy and I’m worried that sleeping with him means it’s over, that this relationship will go nowhere. —BG, Chicago, Illinois The gay woman’s perspective: Jody Fischer Is there a chance that the two of you can work?
In your past relationships, could you tell if things were “going to work” after one date?